Elle
“Hovering”
Demonstration Video
In some videos, like this one, women demonstrate the techniques in detail on their bodies, which means some explicit visuals. You can identify demonstration videos by looking for this symbol below the video:
Renewing
Making touch newly pleasurable, over and over
Hello again, and again, and again
You know how the moments when you first sink into a warm bath are often the best part? Or how the first bite of a favorite food is so much better than the later ones? Well, the same principle can apply to sexual pleasure. Women have discovered brilliant ways to get that first burst of pleasure over and over again.
Techniques
Penetration Intermissions
Lot’s of people think of changing positions as the way to keep penetration exciting. But many have realized it’s actually the little intermission the body gets that renews the pleasure. So, using this idea, whenever the pleasure starts to fade, try pulling all the way out for a while before gently penetrating again.
19%
of women renew pleasure by taking the penis/toy all the way out for a while before resuming
Rosalinda
“The dramatic pause”
Clit Intermissions
Just like with penetration, touch on the clit often feels great. . . still great. . . and then, less great. More like ho-hum. Sometimes just a break for air makes all the difference. At the first sign the clit’s sensitivity is getting stale, stop touching it and touch nearby for a while before returning for a fresh touch.
“Alone and with my husband, when the feeling from my clit is not feeling as great anymore, taking a pause to kiss for a minute recharges the pleasure I can get.”
Jessica
“Change of exposure”
Hey Body! Look Over There!
Many women renew the sensation by shifting attention to a different area of the body for a while. Some even discover ways to ‘shock’ their system to reset the pleasure: a little spank, a stream of cool breath, a dab of an ice cube or even a gentle bite. After the distraction, the stimulation or penetration that was happening before can feel new again.
“When I am bitten on my inner upper thigh, this is almost like a reset for me when receiving oral pleasure and then when they go back to my vulva, it’s new again.”
Zosia
“Revitalizing slaps”
Secret Gaps
Some women give their clit a break during intercourse just by slightly shifting their hips for a moment so their clit isn’t getting any contact. The contrast and temperature change can enable a fresh wave of pleasure when the clit is moved back into the action.
“When sex feels stagnant, I move my butt up so my clitoris can just feel air and not be touched for a minute. Then after, I can feel the pleasure more.”
Bringing it to the bedroom
Helpful guidelines
Lots of Little Goals
Renewing is great to try because it replaces the race-to-the-goal mentality with more playful, more gradual sex or masturbation that’s more about squeezing pleasure from each moment.
For Both Partners
Women’s partners have discovered Renewing techniques are sexy and pleasurable for them, too. And since they’re brain hacks, not vagina hacks, these techniques can prolong and heighten pleasure for anyone.
Renew Me, Baby
As you explore Renewing with a partner, you’ll likely find some of the techniques work for you and others don’t. When one works well, make a word or phrase for it and talk about it so you can ask for it the next time. Creating little names for the techniques makes them ‘yours.’
Most common challenges
Reintroducing Yourself
After Renewing with a break or distraction, most prefer the next clit touch or penetration to start gentle, as if approaching for the first time. It’s rare that someone loves to go from zero to jack-hammer penetration.
Please Don’t Tease
Some love chocolate in tiny nibbles and others like to gobble it all at once. It’s also true that some women just don’t like being teased in sex. But while approaching the clit slowly or going deeper little by little can seem like a tease, try treating each stage not as a step toward a goal but as its own destination to enjoy.